THE SHAMEFUL EXIT OF QUEEN NAOMI FROM THE PALACE BY DAVID ADENEKAN

THE SHAMEFUL EXIT OF QUEEN NAOMI FROM THE PALACE BY DAVID ADENEKAN


#Ìròyìn Òmìnira
December 28th, 2021
oluominirayoruba**********

Before You Say I Do To A Traditional King: A Case Study Of Queen Naomi And Her Shameful Exit From Ile Ife Dynasty

In Yorùbá traditional religion, it is disdainful and shameful for a Queen to divorce a reigning King but today, Oba Adeyeye Ogunwusi has been divorced twice by his Queens in the space of three years. The question is, where did we get it wrong or, what are the rites for any woman that will get marry to a King in Yoruba land that we have jettisoned? Are we really preserving our tradition and culture or is our King marrying for a wrong reason?

However, who is Naomi's mother? Is Naomi's mother a married woman, single parent or a widow?

Prejudice apart, if we carry out a research on Naomi's mother, we may discover that her mother is a single parent and if she has a man in her life when she was raising Naomi, she wore the pant and her so called husband was her surrogate. Yes, you cannot give what you do not have. "Òwú tí Ìyá bá gbọ́n ni ọmọ máa rán" (This is interpreted as a daughter will take after the character of her mother).

When a girl did not grow up under the normal tutelage of both parents, it is going to be difficult for her to understand the principle of submission, because she did not see her mother being submissive to a man.

You have to earn it. It is not automatic. 90% of the time, our children do what they see us doing and not what we tell them to do.

Also, she said in her statement on Instagram that Ooni Ogunwusi that we all see with a heart of meekness and cheerful spirit is not the same Ooni Ogunwusi inside the Palace. In other words, he has dual personality traits.

What does she expect?

Does she want the Ooni to treat her the way he will treat his subject?

The question is, does she carry the same responsibility with that of the members of the public?

Give me a break, Naomi. Please read my lips; in Yoruba tradition and custom, the Olori carries a special responsibility in the Palace and Kabiyesi must treat her with love and great discipline.

Is this not the reason you cannot be treated the same way Kabiyesi will treat the members of the public?

It is pertinent to say that, every glory has a weight and part of the weight of getting married to a traditional King is great discipline in order to conform to the customs and traditions of the people. It is called the weight of glory.

Moreover, part of the tradition, is that, a King cannot marry one wife because the heart of a King belongs to his subject. The customs and traditions do not want any woman to dominate the life of a King. "Ọba ni oko oṣó Oba ni ọkọ àjẹ́" (This is interpreted as the King is the husband to witches, wizard and widows).

Naomi, all that side chicks you mentioned in your Instagram are traditionally part of the deal. King Solomon in the Bible called them Concubines. Lobatan!

Are you trying to change the norm in our tradition and custom to a deviant behavior?

Kò yé mi ni o! (I can't get it).

Were you not told before you said I do that you will not be the only wife? What is the qualms?

Without a doubt, if all these are not the real burning issues you will not say it in your Instagram.

Again, why are you nagging over what you ought to know, that marriage to a King is tantamount to marriage to the customs and traditions of your people.

Hmmmm!! You want to enjoy all the splendor and excitement that comes with getting married to a King but you abhor the part that makes you feel jealous.

Yes, "you cannot eat your cake and have it".

In addition, Moses Olafare, the spokesperson for Ooni Adeyeye Ogunwusi in a press statement said, his royal majesty just bought Naomi a brand new car as special gift and she accepted it wholeheartedly. However, she still went ahead to announce to the whole world on Instagram that she has divorced the Arole Odua, Oba Ogunwusi. I guess a gift of brand new car will not perform the magic wonder of making her to remain a Queen of Ile Ife. I think what she want is the throne. The king maker should summon an emergency meeting and make Naomi the royal majesty of Ile Ife since she is indisposable; and Oba Ogunwusi will be her surrogate.

Again, please let us make Naomi the king so that she will change her mind and not divorce Oba Adeyeye Ogunwusi. I guess this is fair enough since nothing again can satisfy her but the throne. What an irony of life in the twenty first century!

In years past, the reason why the wives of the past Kings were allowed to stay in the Palace was to tutor the new wives, on the customs and traditions of the Palace and made them pay obeisance to the King.

Also, most ancient Palaces still maintain the status quo. A classic example is the Bini Empire, even when the current King joins his ancestors, there are some people that will remain in the Palace for continuity. This is why the Bini Monarchy remains one of the most powerful and revered Kingships in modern history.

Another classic example is the British Monarchy; they still preserve most of the traditions and customs of the Monarchy in order to ensure continuity. It is what it is. Lobatan!

Yes, I doubt if modernization has not eroded some of the great values that will preserve our traditions and customs in Ile Ife dynasty.

My advice to Ooni Adeyeye Enitan Ogunwusi, Ojaja II is to do a thorough background check on the next wife he will bring to the Palace as Queen and let her be tutored before she becomes a Queen.


Only time will tell!!



David Adenekan writes from Chicago, Illinois.
davidadenekan5**********.

Category:
Arts & Culture