The heart of marriage:

The heart of marriage:

For an unbreakable union, the glue must come through the blood of Jesus!



The shocking announcement of the break up of (the 27 years old marriage of) Bill Gates and Belinda Gates was like explosion of landmines. No rightful mind would’ve seen it coming.



In public, we always see the sweetness of relationships but when the ugliness that happens behind close doors slips out it becomes a somersault of gossip on the lips of everyone. Fractions of stories and fabrications begin to slip out here and there as to why the union crumbled. Just like the Chinese whisper!



All I know is this: the breakdown of a long standing union meets with the delight of cynical minds. Some people are glad when they hear of the breakup of a long-standing union although they may pretend in public to be aggrieved - let it be known that such individuals are clearly agents of destruction. In no time or in future, they will eventually meet their own Waterloo.



The news of Belinda and Bill Gates' divorce after 27 years sent a shiver down my spine. I honestly thought the couples were unbreakable and the union was made in heaven. I must’ve got it completely wrong.



I have come to realise that the rich also cry as well. The issues of life that affects the common man at the lower spectrum of the economy and social class also find their way to the rich and famous. I always thought Bill and Melinda were the example of a formidable union which goes beyond boundaries to support the downtrodden world-wide. The pair of them had done almost everything to better humanity. In my mind, I thought they had reached a place in life they were just unbreakable; not knowing they were hurting as well behind close doors.



It takes two to sustain a marriage and much more than two individuals to break it up.



Marriage should be the agenda where differences are met but both parties walking towards acommon compatibility. The institution of marriage is like a skyscraper which is never easy to build and maintain. What prevails in the long run is God's will germinating through the institution. Satan, on the other hand, comes to rob and sow the seed of division and destruction. Give Satan an inch he will take a mile.



When the heart of any marriage is attacked it is like a poison and the breeding ground for all kinds of contagious parasites. Two loving birds suddenly or gradually become each other’s worst nightmare.



When the heart is troubled, excuses are then made left, right and centre in order to find a cynical or logical way out of the union. Rhetoric such as;

* we were never meant to be together in the first place

* I just cannot believe how I came to meet you -

* You are my worst nightmare

* We are not compatible at all

* It was a fixed relationship

* You took advantage of my vulnerability

* We were never sexually compatible

* We want different things out of life

* You are a complete waste of space

* We are from two different generations

* Family interference is suffocating our marriage

* Financially, the man is bankrupt

* Intellectually, we are not on the same level

* My heart is really somewhere else is the most common of all excuses this day

* I am getting out for my own health and safety. That statement there is the final seal!



When all destructive elements sneak into the marriage it becomes the breeding ground of justifiable and unjustifiable excuses. When this happens Satan and his agents of destruction are secretly laughing all the way in the hell.



It grieves God to see a broken marriage particularly when humans begin to make logical and cynical excuses as to why the situation prevails.



Every individual who partakes in the break up or divorce of any marriage directly or indirectly will eventually suffer the consequences of what they’ve done, no doubt. Whether it is the couple themselves or any outside interference. There will always be a reprisal.



I cover every old, new and about to wed marriages with the precious blood of Jesus. Yours will stand firm like the rock of Gibraltar.



For all couples I say this: try to accommodate each other and celebrate your differences as you try to find common grounds. Treat your marriage delicately like an egg given to you by God that you cannot afford to fracture. Be each other’s friend beyond being husband-and-wife and constantly find common grounds of exploration in your marriage.



Let your marriage be like a light on the hill that cannot be hidden.



All the best!!



Israel Ayodele E. A. Lazarus Oshunremi

Bachelor of Arts, Honours In Education and Community Studies, U E L

Mentor/Educationalist/Public Speaker/Human Rights Activist/Author

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